my point of view..

something struck me.. been thinking on this issue most of the time.. is about whether should we force ppl to do something or let dem have the desire to do it.. well.. it may be work, relationship and God..

lets be spiritual for a moment.. God is one person, or one being dat would not force ppl to do things.. everything dat His people did for Him, is willingness.. He did not force ppl to believe in Him, He do not force ppl to serve Him. It is by His ppl choice to believe in Him, as we have the knowledge of good and evil, we are able to choose wat is right and wrong.. And in the beginnning, God gave human brains to think, to choose.. whether to obey Him or not.. but, humans failed to obey.. God did not force us to serve Him as well.. He did not say, "IF U DUN SERVE ME, U WILL DIE".. but it is by the gratitude towards what He has done for us, we serve Him with all our hearts.. and dats the greatest power of works, which is doing it without being force.. Serving God while being force doesen gives us great joy in what we are doing.. We are jus plainly doing for the sake of doing.. But, if we willingly serve

Him, we will enjoy everything that we do, being in God's presense, serving Him.. dats the greatest joy of serving.. for me of coz.. dats y, although being a leader in the worship team, i do not force my members to play.. I'll jus ask dem, u want to play or not.. if yes, im happy for u to join us.. If not, its ok.. go and do wat u like.. as i hate being boss by people around, i do not boss around..

about work.. Well, im working in an audit firm, which means, I have a boss, and watever the boss ask me to do, i will do.. coz, dats part of my job.. well, i realize dat, if i do not like wat im doing, i will be dam stressful and tired, though im not doing anything much.. i will start grumble.. and there is no joy in what im doing.. My senior ask me once.. do i really want to be in audit field? i really dunno.. i kinda like the job scope, but, being lazy myself, i hate working... but i got to work, as that is already "part of life".. i dun hate m

y job now, but i dun really like it either.. so, maybe moving into other fields, or being a muscians as i always dreamt of.. i really dunno..

about relationships.. U cant force ur partner to do things for u.. if forcing is being part of the relationship, it is good as ntg.. I noe of some relationships where the guy/girl have to "report" to the other half where are they, or wat they have done, or anything shit.. which i think is bullshit.. dis is practically not love anymore.. its like a duty, or routine dat u have to do.. i think, if u love ur partner, u will practically wanna tell her most of the things dat happens in d day.. where have u been and all dat.. ur partner wont have to force u to tell.. it basically does not comes from the heart.. which is not love anymore..

from all 3 points above, i make it a point not to force anyone to do things.. sometimes, i will set rules to follow (in ministry), and if dun follow

, den u noe la.. hahah.. but in relationships, there cannot be a rule around.. if u love him/her, u will trust her.. if he/she have cheated on u b4, and u are scared, u better find the best solution for it.. talk things out.. if not, if its worst, sad to say, the relationship will be dam freaking shaky, and u will not be happy anymore.. coz u will be thinking here and there..

btw.. im happy for both of my best frens whom get together recently.. well.. both guy and girl are consider my heng dai, and zi mui...

Zheng De, whom i know better during our 3rd year in Uni.. full of laughter and lame shit jokes.. genius in UWE class 2009.. partner in crime in many ways.. sitting at the mall with another shithead jus like me, talking bout life, work, and girls.. and yes.. we called ourselves the sampah masyarakat..

Elaine Wong, whom i noe since day one of uni.. can say, my zi mui in everything.. nice to be with, nice to bully.. haha.. sporting, dun care a

bout being at the losing end.. but hard to guess.. sometimes with emo faces.. weird eyes she got.. but, by all means, my best frens in times of need.. well.. both of dem are my best frens.. along with others..

Zheng de, Elaine..

and priesthead behind the camera..

~Priesthead~